{"id":25080,"date":"2024-12-30T11:19:26","date_gmt":"2024-12-30T11:19:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lotuswellness.in\/lotus\/?p=25080"},"modified":"2024-12-30T11:19:26","modified_gmt":"2024-12-30T11:19:26","slug":"healing-childhood-trauma-as-an-adult-9-steps-lotus","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lotuswellness.in\/lotus\/healing-childhood-trauma-as-an-adult-9-steps-lotus\/","title":{"rendered":"Healing Childhood Trauma as an Adult | 9 Steps @ Lotus"},"content":{"rendered":"

Healing Childhood Trauma as an Adult | 9 Steps @ Lotus\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

By<\/p>\n

Dr G Om Prakasham\u00a0<\/a>
\nChairman, Lotus Wellness
\nMental Health Advocate
\nConsultant Heart Surgeon<\/p>\n

The healthiest response to childhood emotional wounds is also the rarest…<\/p>\n

Trauma can stay in the body and affect one\u2019s life until they uncover it and process it out.<\/p>\n

When you begin to process trauma, it may be helpful to start with a smaller trauma.
\nAn exercise for processing trauma includes steps such as grounding it, recalling it, naming it, and sharing it.<\/p>\n

Trauma generates emotions, and unless we process these emotions at the time the trauma occurs, they become stuck in our mind and body. Instead of healing from the wounding event, the trauma stays in our body as energy in our unconscious, affecting our life until we uncover it and process it out. The healthy flow and processing of distressing emotions, such as anger, sadness, shame, and fear, is essential to healing from childhood trauma as an adult.<\/p>\n

The healthiest response to childhood emotional wounds is also the rarest: When the trauma first occurs, we recognize the violation it has caused to our sense of self, feel the natural emotions that follow, and then realize that the violation doesn\u2019t say anything about us personally \u2014 and thus we don\u2019t make negative meaning of it and can let it go.<\/p>\n

But because emotions like anger and sadness are painful \u2014 and because crying or confronting others is often not socially acceptable \u2014 this process doesn\u2019t happen automatically. Instead, we may suppress our emotions, rather than feel and process them. As a child, this process is even more difficult. What can feel like a pinprick to an adult \u2014 an insult about one\u2019s appearance that we can brush off at 40 \u2014 can feel like a stab wound to a child and create lasting damage (body dysmorphia, depression, etc.).<\/p>\n

Then we carry these emotional stab wounds with us into adulthood, and they affect our relationships, career, happiness, health . . . everything. That is, until we process them and heal by feeling our feelings.<\/p>\n

Why we don\u2019t always feel our feelings<\/p>\n

Even the most loving and attentive parents can do lasting damage to our sense of self. Meaning well and hating to see us hurt, our parents may have rushed in after an upsetting episode. \u201cDon\u2019t feel bad \u2014 it\u2019s okay,\u201d our caregiver said when we started to cry. The truth is, feeling bad can be good for us. We needed to feel bad for a while and to think about why we felt the way we did.<\/p>\n

Or maybe our parents weren\u2019t loving and attentive, and they demanded that we stop crying when we felt hurt. Either way, we didn\u2019t learn how to feel our feelings productively. We didn\u2019t learn that emotions are temporary and fleeting, that they have a predictable beginning, middle, and end, and that we will survive. When we don\u2019t learn how to feel our feelings, we may start to interpret all emotions as terrifying.<\/p>\n

As children, we can\u2019t distinguish our feelings and our \u201cself.\u201d We think we are our feelings. If our feelings aren\u2019t treated as acceptable in a certain situation, we may decide that we aren\u2019t acceptable.<\/p>\n

To heal from childhood trauma, we have to complete the process that should have begun decades ago, when the wounding incident happened. I developed this exercise based on my decades of experience helping patients heal from childhood emotional wounds. The first time you try this exercise, I suggest starting with a small trauma. When I work with clients in my private practice, I like to start small and move toward bigger traumas once they have mastered the technique and feel comfortable with it.<\/p>\n

THE BASICS<\/p>\n

What Is Trauma?<\/p>\n

Find counselling to heal from trauma<\/p>\n

1. Ground it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For this process to work, you must be in your body and in the now. To begin, find a quiet place where you won\u2019t be disturbed. Sit comfortably with your eyes closed, and take several deep breaths, bringing your awareness into your body. Squeeze and release your muscles, and feel the heaviness in your arms. Let yourself feel connected to the ground under you. Imagine a stream of energy going from your tailbone all the way down into the center of the earth. Once you feel that you are centered in your body, go to Step 2.<\/p>\n

2. Recall it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Think of a situation that you\u2019ve been upset about recently. Find something that provoked a mild to strong emotional reaction, or that would have if you didn\u2019t feel emotionally numb. Review what happened in as much detail as possible, and imagine yourself back in that time and place. Experience it all again with your senses. When emotions begin to arise, go to Step 3.<\/p>\n

3. Sense it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Continue breathing deeply, and spend a moment in quiet relaxation. Then, mentally scan your body for any sensations. I call this process \u201cpercolating\u201d because of the way your emotions will stir and bubble up inside you. Observe any physical response you experience \u2014 tingling, tightness, burning, etc. Each of these sensations is a bit of information you need to understand your past experience. Explore these sensations, and silently describe them to yourself in as much detail as you can. Once you\u2019ve explored and described all of your physical reactions, you can move on to Step 4.<\/p>\n

4. Name it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Associate an emotion with each of the sensations you feel. Is the tightness in your chest anxiety? Is the heat you feel traveling up your arms anger? \u00a0It\u2019s important to recognize the often subtle distinctions between sometimes similar emotions. This will give you a greater sense of your experience and a richer knowledge of yourself. Once you\u2019ve named your emotions, go to Step 5.<\/p>\n

5. Love it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

As part of a mindful approach to healing from trauma, we need to fully accept everything that we feel. Whether it\u2019s true to your conscious mind at this moment or not, say, \u201cI love myself for feeling (angry, sad, anxious, etc.).\u201d Do this with every emotion you feel, especially the harder ones. Embrace your humanness, and love yourself for it. After you\u2019ve accepted and loved yourself for each of your emotions, you can move on to Step 6.<\/p>\n

6. Feel and experience it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sit with your emotions and their sensations, letting the feelings percolate and flow. Don\u2019t try to change or hide them; observe them. Acknowledge and welcome any discomfort you feel, knowing it will be gone soon and will help you to heal. Let your body respond the way it wants or needs to. If you feel the urge to cry, cry. If you feel the need to yell something or punch something, you should yell or punch the air. Expressing your emotions \u2014 in a productive way \u2014 is key to getting them moving inside you and to fully process them. When you\u2019ve fully felt and experienced your emotions, move to Step 7.<\/p>\n

7. Receive its message and wisdom.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do the sensations or emotions you\u2019re experiencing right now connect with one or more experiences in your past? Do they give you any insight into the root of the trauma or a negative, limiting belief about yourself? Right now, you might be thinking, \u201cI\u2019m not getting anything.\u201d Ask yourself: \u201cIf this sensation or emotion were going to say something to me, what would it be?\u201d If you still have trouble, do some free writing. Journal about what the feeling means, for a full 10 minutes without stopping. When you think you\u2019ve heard all the messages your emotions are sending you, move on to Step 8.<\/p>\n

8. Share it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you feel comfortable sharing your reflections with someone else, do that. Otherwise, write about them on your own. Describe what happened when the wounding incident first occurred, how you reacted at the time, and what you\u2019ve come to see about it now. Talking or writing about your experiences and emotions is an important step in healing. Writing letters (but not sending them) to those who hurt you can be a very effective method for moving an emotion out of your system. Once you\u2019ve shared your reflections …<\/p>\n

9. Let it go.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Visualize the energy your trauma took up inside you leaving your body, or perform a ritual of physical release, like (safely) burning a letter you\u2019ve written to the person who hurt you, or casting off the trauma in the form of an object into the sea. You can borrow a ritual from Judaism called Tashlikh. During the period of repentance, many Jews cast off their sins into a natural, flowing body of water in the form of breadcrumbs. Instead of sins, you can cast off traumas and the emotions and sensations that go with them.<\/p>\n

The process of healing emotional wounds can feel uncomfortable at first, but I promise it will be a very rewarding journey. The energy we currently spend on trauma will be released, and the space inside ourselves that trauma took up can instead be filled with new, more positive energy that can help us build a life that we will love<\/p>\n

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